Don’t Neglect The Balance

I often post professional and motivational advice for those leaders who sometimes need a boost in morale or a bump in their own self-esteem. I speak on the well-being of your job performance and the preservation of the lives of people you lead. But unfortunately, more often than not, we get submerged in a world of work or world of how we can perform better in our jobs. I myself have fallen victim to projecting more focus on certain aspects of life and neglecting others.

It’s important to know that above all else, your self-care and overall well-being must first start with your attentiveness toward yourself, your family and your home. There is a reason that counselors and psychologists say that a good support system is critical to the mental and physical health of a person. Because without that, you’ll have a hard time finding the energy or alertness to do anything else. Because without that, your loved ones don’t get the attention and energy they deserve from you.

You’ve invested so much energy and time into your professional well-being, you can’t neglect the investment you need to make in your personal life. It’s no easy task trying to find the correct balance between the two, but knowing there needs to be a balance is half the battle. #wellness

Don’t Fear Disappointment

We cannot always bat a thousand, but you sure better try. Sounds obvious, right?

Of course our goal as leaders today is to provide the opportunity for every person we lead to succeed. To overcome obstacles and hurdles others wouldn’t dream of crossing. Every Leader reading this can attest to the fact that a lot of those employees cement a place in your heart professionally and personally. Because you gave so much. And they in turn proved themselves, and you, worthy of the battle. You same Leaders can also confirm that the fear of having a mentee fail is overwhelmingly terrifying.

I preach that we should all lead with everything we have. We should put every ounce of effort into our teams and their progression. Sacrificial management. So failure is inevitably… terrifying. No shame in that.

On that note, many, many managers feel like by avoiding the difficult employees, by taking the “sure bet,” you’re saving yourself and those around you from a world of disappointment and let down. And unfortunately some do it to avoid judgement by peers when failure shows it’s ugly face.

Now… here is where real Leaders and Managers differentiate themselves. You must be willing to be let down. You must be able to overcome the disappointment and know that you gave every person looking up to you everything you had. No one likes having their heart broken. Of course not. But to really feel satisfied with yourself and your skills as a leader, you can’t just pick the lowest hanging fruit. Give the effort necessary to help those that need the extra mile. Because, trust me. If you don’t, you could be missing the best fruit of all….

Happiness vs Success

If your happiness is measured directly from your level of professional success, it might be time to reprioritize. Take the time to define personally the difference between success and happiness. To me, happiness is seeing my children grow and play; professional success is seeing them grow and play on a beach in Bora Bora with no access to email.

Let’s Just Be Grateful

Remember the feeling of wanting something you now have? When you start to feel imprisoned by material possessions like the newest and greatest gadget or you start to feel envious of some one else’s new car or house, stop to look around. Be grateful for how far you’ve come and remember when you weren’t very far at all. #family #grateful

Strive To Be Humble

Try to find more humility this week. I constantly find myself using first person pronouns way too often during my daily conversations. Join me in making a more conscious effort to ask genuine questions about others and those you meet, rather than telling others about yourself. Listen more intently. Everyone deserves a chance to be heard. Try and learn something from everyone you interact with.