Happiness vs Success

If your happiness is measured directly from your level of professional success, it might be time to reprioritize. Take the time to define personally the difference between success and happiness. To me, happiness is seeing my children grow and play; professional success is seeing them grow and play on a beach in Bora Bora with no access to email.

It’s your world

The moment you start to doubt your ability is the perfect time to keep moving forward. Change the narrative. Stand strong against events you cannot control and change your perspective. This is your life. This is your world. Make what you want of it.  #forwarding #motivation #personaldevelopment #keepgrowing

Embrace the long term

Compared to the rest of the animal kingdom, humans are not particularly strong or fast. But as you know, our ability to think logically and strategically catapulted our species to the top of the food chain. However, what we lack in strength, aggression and quickness, we made up for with endurance. We have the ability to maintain a slow and steady walk for hours and even days. Our ancestors knew this and used it to their advantage to survive. Meaning, early humans would literally walk their prey to death. We still carry with us this persistence. This endurance. Most of the time, you’re not going to be the fastest or strongest. Statistics tell us this. But what can set you apart is not the flare. It’s the grind. The grit. The determination required to win the long race. So stop thinking in present terms. Stop thinking in immediate gratification. Start thinking steps and miles ahead. Pace yourself and build that endurance. And one day you may surprise yourself with how far you’ve gone.

Forget About It

If you dwell in the past, you fail at giving the present the true attention it deserves and the positivity the future needs.

Detours Are OK

Having a well thought out plan can make work and life a little easier to manage. A step-by-step account of everything you have to do, all laid out in a nice, neat package. However, rarely do plans stay in place. AND THAT’S OK! You’re ability to adapt to new situations and bumps in the road is a key component to a happy and healthy career, marriage or everyday living. When detours in your life arrive, take the opportunity to explore new challenges, and learn to adapt more quickly by being open and honest with yourself and the possibilities ahead of you.

Let’s Just Be Grateful

Remember the feeling of wanting something you now have? When you start to feel imprisoned by material possessions like the newest and greatest gadget or you start to feel envious of some one else’s new car or house, stop to look around. Be grateful for how far you’ve come and remember when you weren’t very far at all. #family #grateful

Make Things Happen!

Try this. Instead of waking up thinking, “I have so much to do at work today.” Wake up and say, “Let’s make something happen today.” Make a difference. Make THE difference. Successful people don’t wait for something to happen. They find the difference to make and find a way to make it happen. Why be complacent?

Strive To Be Humble

Try to find more humility this week. I constantly find myself using first person pronouns way too often during my daily conversations. Join me in making a more conscious effort to ask genuine questions about others and those you meet, rather than telling others about yourself. Listen more intently. Everyone deserves a chance to be heard. Try and learn something from everyone you interact with.

Quick Question: Are we too sensitive?

Peter Rabbit’s arch nemesis is allergic to blackberries.

Parents are up in arms and offended.

Film studio, writers and producers are apologizing.

How sensitive are we? How do you feel?

Image: Sony Pictures

Marriage Is Hard And Why It’s Worth It

Marriage is hard. We hear it all the time. The fake statistics, the unwarranted advice from divorced couples, the culture that seems to shine light on all the nasty bits of marriage. It’s all out there. And for the most part, the nasty bits are true. Unfortunately, marriage isn’t long walks on the beach and making out in the rain. It’s more like holding each other, for dear life, weathering every possible natural disaster known to man, while standing on a gang plank. I’m writing to say it’s true. Marriage is hard. But so, so worth it. Read More

Hit Refresh

 

Adulting is hard. I get it. It’s the same thing, day in and day out. You go to work to pay the bills. You pay the bills to live. You live to sleep. You sleep to go to work. And if you get that far, great damn job. Congratulations. You’ve done the minimum. Now get ready. Because then Life starts. Read More

Not your dads of yesteryear

 

I can’t cook. I don’t cry. I’m always dirty. Ok… Just quit. I might be a guy/man/dad, but most dads are far from the stereotype. And I don’t know about my fellow dad compadres, but 75% of my daily dadness is used up when trying to avoid being included in these awful categories of dad characteristics. And honestly, it’s getting annoying.  We aren’t your dads of yesteryear. Read More

Lead by failure…

 

Lead by example. As leaders, as parents, as all-around good citizens, we’re always told to set the example. As an older brother growing up, the idea was drilled into me. Sometimes even spanked into me. Like somehow, if I messed up, my brother was sure to make the same mistake and we would both end up selling drugs on the corner and entering rehab way earlier than anyone in our small town expected. But that got me thinking. Read More

3 Things I Wish I Would Have Known

 

Hindsight is a pain in the head. Literally. As an adult, you can look back on most things and think, “I gave it my all.” We take in all the evidence around us, weigh the outcomes and make our best decision. Should I have that extra doughnut? I’ll be working twice as hard in the gym this week. My cholesterol really could stand to not have it. It’ll make my fingers sticky. On the other hand, someone worked really hard on making that doughnut for me. Read More

Test the waters..

 

ok… it’s kind of a political post, but hear me out. I promise, it’s worth a thought. Read More