It’s your world

The moment you start to doubt your ability is the perfect time to keep moving forward. Change the narrative. Stand strong against events you cannot control and change your perspective. This is your life. This is your world. Make what you want of it.  #forwarding #motivation #personaldevelopment #keepgrowing

Embrace the long term

Compared to the rest of the animal kingdom, humans are not particularly strong or fast. But as you know, our ability to think logically and strategically catapulted our species to the top of the food chain. However, what we lack in strength, aggression and quickness, we made up for with endurance. We have the ability to maintain a slow and steady walk for hours and even days. Our ancestors knew this and used it to their advantage to survive. Meaning, early humans would literally walk their prey to death. We still carry with us this persistence. This endurance. Most of the time, you’re not going to be the fastest or strongest. Statistics tell us this. But what can set you apart is not the flare. It’s the grind. The grit. The determination required to win the long race. So stop thinking in present terms. Stop thinking in immediate gratification. Start thinking steps and miles ahead. Pace yourself and build that endurance. And one day you may surprise yourself with how far you’ve gone.

Forget About It

If you dwell in the past, you fail at giving the present the true attention it deserves and the positivity the future needs.

Detours Are OK

Having a well thought out plan can make work and life a little easier to manage. A step-by-step account of everything you have to do, all laid out in a nice, neat package. However, rarely do plans stay in place. AND THAT’S OK! You’re ability to adapt to new situations and bumps in the road is a key component to a happy and healthy career, marriage or everyday living. When detours in your life arrive, take the opportunity to explore new challenges, and learn to adapt more quickly by being open and honest with yourself and the possibilities ahead of you.

Be Honest With Those You Lead

Having the trust and loyalty of a team comes with sacrifice and accountability as a leader. Own up to mistakes you’ve made and learn from them. Those who follow you respect honesty. Poor leaders will deflect in times of famine and take credit in times of feast. Own your team’s performance during good times and in bad, and your team will respect you for it. So today, own your team. Show them you have their back even when numbers are down. Show them that you’re their real leader.

Get Your Hands Dirty

Being a manager means getting your hands dirty. We would all love the ability to sit back and watch the world turn, sometimes pointing and giving orders. But in reality, our employees are smart. They recognize laziness and won’t tolerate it. So today, be a hands on manager. Get in the weeds and make something happen. In the end, your employees will follow your example and respect the fact that you realize what they go through. Get your hands dirty. Stand beside them.

Let’s Just Be Grateful

Remember the feeling of wanting something you now have? When you start to feel imprisoned by material possessions like the newest and greatest gadget or you start to feel envious of some one else’s new car or house, stop to look around. Be grateful for how far you’ve come and remember when you weren’t very far at all. #family #grateful

Make Things Happen!

Try this. Instead of waking up thinking, “I have so much to do at work today.” Wake up and say, “Let’s make something happen today.” Make a difference. Make THE difference. Successful people don’t wait for something to happen. They find the difference to make and find a way to make it happen. Why be complacent?

What Makes A Great Leader?

Possessing a leadership role is a privilege, honor and fiduciary responsibility. Don’t ever take for granted your ability to motivate or demotivate those you lead. Anyone can motivate a team, and the ability to recognize low morale and a demotivated team is a necessary characteristic of a good leader. HOWEVER, the ability to reverse that downfall and maintain consistent, positive motivation is a key characteristic and sign of a GREAT leader.

Strive To Be Humble

Try to find more humility this week. I constantly find myself using first person pronouns way too often during my daily conversations. Join me in making a more conscious effort to ask genuine questions about others and those you meet, rather than telling others about yourself. Listen more intently. Everyone deserves a chance to be heard. Try and learn something from everyone you interact with.

Never Settle For Just Getting By

Be an over achiever. I’ve never understood the mindset of those who are content with doing the bare minimum to get by. You only get one shot at making your mark on this world. Take every opportunity that comes your way and give it everything you have. There is absolutely no point or reasoning behind “just getting by.” Don’t waste your time here on Earth, and certainly don’t waste anyone else’s time by dragging your feet. Be confident. Be motivated. Strive to over achieve.

Soylent Challenge: The Final Days

Here we are, people! I did it. It’s done. I made it through this weird diet journey, and I have to say, I have never felt better. Back on day 3, I said the ultimate goal for me was to allow my body to “reset.” To flush my body of processed foods and MSG. I didn’t fully understand at the time how that goal would end up playing out. I’m here to say that it’s played out beautifully. Read More

Day 11: I’m basically just Soy now

Day 11 was met with heartburn from last night’s dinner. The morning Soylent didn’t help anything. My body was not used to real food like we had last night, so it really yelled at me this morning. All day really. I never really felt quite right unit a little after lunch. I got a few calories in me and then cruised to success after my dinner soylent.  Read More

Day 10: Another Day. Another Soylent

Well, yesterday was Valentimes Valentine’s day. One of the days of the year you can dedicate a small something or action to the one you love. Flowers, chocolate, a love letter or even a night out on the town. My mother agreed to watch our two heathens while I took my wife out to our favorite place, Abi-Haus. This is where we were engaged and where we spend every Valentine’s day. The best food in Abilene, TX, and an atmosphere unlike any other in West Texas. Obviously, we love it. Read More

Quick Question: Are we too sensitive?

Peter Rabbit’s arch nemesis is allergic to blackberries.

Parents are up in arms and offended.

Film studio, writers and producers are apologizing.

How sensitive are we? How do you feel?

Image: Sony Pictures

Day 9: Is This Really It?

I’ve had several people, well more than the normal amount of people, today ask me how my Soylent trip is coming along. I have no new information. And I’m actually pretty proud of that. I think I did it, guys. I think I’ve done it. Three days away and I have no doubt I’ll make it. Of course, I’m looking forward to a good, hearty meal on Saturday. Good, real, juicy protein. Read More

Day 7: Solely Soylent

Today’s the day, folks. My wife just returned home. The Olympics are on. And besides having an orange, I’ve had nothing but Soylent. A drink this morning. A drink at 12:30. A third and final Soylent drink at 8:00. Read More

Day 6: The First Saturday

My two boys woke up to the smell of bacon. I got to watch it sizzle in the pan. Small spots of bacon grease speckle the lenses of my glasses. My oldest likes it medium. Not too crispy. The youngest had a warm Pop-Tart. Read More

Day 5: This Was A Down Day

This was a down day today. I tried my best to stay upbeat, but I was dragging my knuckles all damn day. Thank God I work with some awesome people, or today would have been extra rough. Read More

Day 4: I forgot to eat…

You read that right. This morning started normal. I drank the morning Soylent drink. I felt great. No sluggishness. Nothing. Just straight productivity. Today was one of those days at work when you feel like a slinky tumbling down a long flight of stairs. You just keep tumbling. One stair after another. Until someone kicks you over or the stairs end. Read More

Day 3: Positively Soylent

The mission today, if I chose to accept it, was to think positive. After the roller coaster ride of a day I had yesterday, I realized it was too early in this experience to start losing control. So today I made an all out effort to be more positive. I don’t know if it worked or not. But I don’t feel like I’m laying on a water bed during an earthquake anymore. So that’s good. Read More

Day 2: Soylent Rollercoaster

As the title says, today was an emotional freaking roller coaster. I’m up. I’m down. I’m hungry. I’m not hungry. I honestly don’t know how to feel right now. It’s day 2. That’s all I know for sure. oh! and that dinner saved my life. I promised myself I would use this as an opportunity to eat healthier, but I just couldn’t take it. With a sick toddler and long day at work, a cheeseburger really hit the spot! hmmmm…. it ended too fast. I mean, between the two drinks, I had had 800 calories today. A cheeseburger was a welcomed delight and OKAY in my book. Read More

Day 1: Soylent Experiment… I might die

If you haven’t heard of Soylent, don’t worry. It’s not very complicated. It was developed by a couple of guys in Silicon Valley, looking for a way to make eating easier. The product was aptly named in homage to Harry Harrison’s 1966 science fiction novel Make Room! Make Room!, which explores the impact massive population growth could have on world resources. These two guys saw a need for a way to gain sustainance while at the same time, making time in the day for other things, like founding profitable start-ups. Read More

Marriage Is Hard And Why It’s Worth It

Marriage is hard. We hear it all the time. The fake statistics, the unwarranted advice from divorced couples, the culture that seems to shine light on all the nasty bits of marriage. It’s all out there. And for the most part, the nasty bits are true. Unfortunately, marriage isn’t long walks on the beach and making out in the rain. It’s more like holding each other, for dear life, weathering every possible natural disaster known to man, while standing on a gang plank. I’m writing to say it’s true. Marriage is hard. But so, so worth it. Read More

Hit Refresh

 

Adulting is hard. I get it. It’s the same thing, day in and day out. You go to work to pay the bills. You pay the bills to live. You live to sleep. You sleep to go to work. And if you get that far, great damn job. Congratulations. You’ve done the minimum. Now get ready. Because then Life starts. Read More

I Thought He Was A Girl

 

The day before we found out we were having another boy, I told my wife, “I hope it’s a girl. I would feel bad having to split my guy time with John Michael.” I’ve come to know this child. We’ve become best friends. I honestly don’t know another friend, or even my wife, well enough to instinctually know that he needs to poop. I just know. It’s time. Read More

Not your dads of yesteryear

 

I can’t cook. I don’t cry. I’m always dirty. Ok… Just quit. I might be a guy/man/dad, but most dads are far from the stereotype. And I don’t know about my fellow dad compadres, but 75% of my daily dadness is used up when trying to avoid being included in these awful categories of dad characteristics. And honestly, it’s getting annoying.  We aren’t your dads of yesteryear. Read More

Lead by failure…

 

Lead by example. As leaders, as parents, as all-around good citizens, we’re always told to set the example. As an older brother growing up, the idea was drilled into me. Sometimes even spanked into me. Like somehow, if I messed up, my brother was sure to make the same mistake and we would both end up selling drugs on the corner and entering rehab way earlier than anyone in our small town expected. But that got me thinking. Read More

3 Things I Wish I Would Have Known

 

Hindsight is a pain in the head. Literally. As an adult, you can look back on most things and think, “I gave it my all.” We take in all the evidence around us, weigh the outcomes and make our best decision. Should I have that extra doughnut? I’ll be working twice as hard in the gym this week. My cholesterol really could stand to not have it. It’ll make my fingers sticky. On the other hand, someone worked really hard on making that doughnut for me. Read More

Test the waters..

 

ok… it’s kind of a political post, but hear me out. I promise, it’s worth a thought. Read More

Take one…

And we’re off! …  The cold, rainy weather has got me dreaming of hot chocolate and a roaring fire. I’m also dreaming we get something good out of this first blog post. I’m nervous. My palms are sweaty. Knees weak, arms are heavy…. At least it’s a start. Read More